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Ep #151: Scarlette Joyce Rojas: The Truth About Money, God, and Abundance
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“Is making money against God’s will? Join Scarlette Joyce Rojas as we explore the complex relationship between wealth, spirituality, and our beliefs. Discover the truths behind religious teachings and money, wealth and abundance, and find out the 3 key beliefs that are keeping you making money.”
What does it mean to have a healthy relationship with money, where you can be wealthy without compromising your spiritual values?
In this episode of the Business Growth Architect Show, Scarlette Joyce Rojas explains the complex relationship between money, faith, and abundance. Many business owners struggle with the idea of wealth—wondering if our desire for financial success contradicts our spiritual values.
Scarlette is here to dispel those myths and empower you to align your financial goals with your faith. Throughout the episode, she explores how deeply rooted beliefs about money can create barriers to success and explains how you can reframe those beliefs to attract the abundance you deserve.
Scarlette doesn’t just identify the problem—she shares the key 3 money mindset beliefs to shift your mindset, helping you to redefine your approach to wealth from a place of peace and empowerment. If you’re ready to take control of your financial future, this episode is a must-watch.
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Hi. This is Scarlette Joyce Rojas, author of "31 Badass Money Mindset Affirmations." And on my episode for the Business Growth Architect Show, join me to discuss is making money against God. And we'll also go over three belief systems guaranteed to keep you poor and reveal how to change them.
BEATE CHELETTE:And hello, fabulous person. Beate Chelette here I am the host of the Business Growth Architect Show and I want to welcome you to today's episode where we discuss how to navigate strategy and spirituality to achieve time and financial freedom. Truly successful people have learned how to master both a clear intention and a strategy to execute that in a spiritual practice that will help them to stay in alignment and on purpose. Please enjoy the show and listen to what our guest today has to say about this very topic. Hello and welcome back. This your host, Beate Chelette, on the business growth architect show, and today I'm talking to Scarlette Joyce Rojas. So today we're going to talk about something I believe is imperative for most of our listeners. Yeah, very imperative to you, is money mindset and around all the BS that's being said about money, and how money is good or bad, and all the biases that are given to money. And I'm so excited, Scarlette that you are taking on this hot button topic. So welcome to the show.
Scarlette Joyce Rojas:Thank you. I'm really happy to be here, and this is exciting. I love talking about this two big things that are important to me, money and spirituality. Exactly,
BEATE CHELETTE:wonderful. So for somebody who has never heard of you before, will you tell them who you are, what you do and what do you solve for your clients?
Scarlette Joyce Rojas:So I'm Scarlette Joyce Rojas, and I am a an author "31 Badass Money Mindset Affirmations," and owner of a financial advisory for Money Mindset Wealth Management. And so the biggest thing that I saw for my clients is to see what subconscious belief systems are holding them back from building wealth. And so I've really drilled it down to three things which we're gonna jump into, yes,
BEATE CHELETTE:exactly. That's gonna be our strategy before we go and help everybody to resolve these money issues. I want to talk about, where does this even all come from? Yeah, right. I mean from, from my perspective, just not being the good girl, I think it was okay for my my dad, to make money, but the view of women that made money was already very different, because it was out of the conservative idea that a woman is at home doing all of this, I don't think we're really quite there anymore. But is it that these old money assumptions are hanging over specifically women's heads, or is it like everybody right now? What do you what do you see? Where is the problem coming from.
Scarlette Joyce Rojas:So it comes from our past experiences, right? It's the subconscious belief that no one pays attention to, and there is research that's that shows that 90% of what we do every single day is actually unconscious, right? We think we're being logical about it, but it's actually unconscious. So imagine the seven year old you making decisions such as what partner you're going to be with for the rest of your life, how you're going to run your business, how you're going to handle your money. And we don't realize that our subconscious belief systems are actually making these decisions for us, and they start off, you know, when we're children, but we just don't realize it. So
BEATE CHELETTE:I think you have a very important point. The number, I believe, is really a seven. They said that most of the stuff of how we behave and what we do and think and the trauma is already there by the time we are seven, that's a really, really, really long time. I want to just throw some things at you and hear what you say about this, or laugh out loud. So is money against God?
Scarlette Joyce Rojas:I would say, No, it's not against God.
BEATE CHELETTE:Is the penny of the poor worth more than the dollar of the rich, not
Scarlette Joyce Rojas:necessarily, but we, we can. We can dive into that. We'll definitely dive into that. And
BEATE CHELETTE:as you have said, Is it, is it easier to get a, you know, camel through a needle versus it is for a rich person to go into into the Heavenly Kingdom? True or False? Yes,
Scarlette Joyce Rojas:that is true. That's what Jesus said, and we can dive into that. The thing is, is that I think that a lot of religious belief and a lot of biblical scripture has been used inappropriately, or has been just taken little pieces of it and then used kind of against us, right? And if you actually take the time to open the Bible and read these verses in context, you will actually find that God is a God of abundance, like God wants us to have money, God wants us to succeed. And so that's where we go wrong. I think we go wrong because we depend. We base what our beliefs around money and our beliefs about ourselves and our beliefs around religion, about from people that we've heard, versus opening the actual book. Why
BEATE CHELETTE:do people take this out of context? I mean, I'm originally from Germany, and I'm raised Catholic, and I think the Catholic church hasn't really figured out quite well that people are really controlled by a lot of this giving to the church, and then, because church is closest to the God, then we need them, and we need to give them the money to Buy us favor with God. I do not believe is correct. I believe that we have access to God, universe, spirit, energy, whatever you want to call it, because it's really a one on one relationship. I don't need a priest from any particular denomination to go out and call in favors for me by giving the money, I can just go and ask directly. Why do you think these issues around money sit so deep? Is it because we're looking at centuries and centuries of control that this is what controls people? What is it that that connected money to spirituality? Because it really is supposed to not have anything to do one with the other. Or does it?
Scarlette Joyce Rojas:Yes, we can look at history, and we can say, okay, at what point did money begin to be controlled by spirituality, right? But I think a better way of seeing it is, let's look at now, right? Let's look at how you're in your life, you are allowing spirituality to control money or vice versa, right? And so that's one of the, one of the pillars, right? The belief systems that can hold you back from building wealth is, there's three of them. There's what you believe about yourself, what you will believe about money, and what you believe about the world, right? So those three things, and when we look at what we believe about the world that in in there includes, what do we believe about God? Do we believe that the world is against us or for us? Do we believe God is against us or for us? And so that's where we have to tackle now. But I think what has happened is that we have not been able to pull apart truth from trauma. Okay, so we have this. Most of us have heard a lot of the stories that have the Catholic Church, right? Priests molesting children, right? Oh, so the church is evil now, right? Okay, is the church evil, or is the person evil? If we pull the truth from the trauma away, same thing, something may have happened to us. I had a client, okay? The rabbi was a jerk to them. So, all right, there's the trauma, and there's the truth. We are throwing the baby out with the bath water when it comes to throwing out our religious beliefs and saying, Okay, well, money's a bad thing, right? Because God says that it's bad. No, that's not true. So we need to begin to start now, pulling truth out from what our traumatic experiences have been in our past.
BEATE CHELETTE:That's a really powerful way to look at it, separation of fact and fiction, I always say, what is the story that you tell yourself? Is the story even true? You know? And I think a lot of times, we believe and hold on to a particular story, because we we build our entire personality or our entire being around that. So you're nodding. So tell me more about that, because I bet you see this all the time,
Scarlette Joyce Rojas:yes, for sure. So we hold on to the story. So so it's interesting, you said we need to be able to to pull apart fact from fiction. What ends up happening, though, is try to tell somebody that what they are believing is fiction. It won't they. They'll be like, No, you know, he really hurt me
BEATE CHELETTE:that way, and I can prove it to you, and he's still doing it. Yes, so that to
Scarlette Joyce Rojas:them is not fiction. To them, it's truth. So we have to look at it. It's like, okay, what part of it is trauma, and then what part of it is actual truth? And everybody has their own truth, right? You know this same person that says that they were mistreated by, let's say, a husband or an ex husband, the if I speak to the husband, I hear a completely different story. So there's his truth, her truth. And then the real truth, right? So that is and then you bring up another good point, because you say they stay, kind of just stick to this story. And they do, they hang on to the story, and then it becomes a victim mindset. It becomes something that they begin to define themselves by. And so I'll give you a perfect example with myself. I was a single mom, right? I still am. I'm still a single mom. And I started noticing that I was actually relying on that, that story, oh, poor me, I'm a single mom. And there was one time I forget what had happened. But I said, Oh, well, don't they know I'm a single mom. And I realized, oh my gosh, I am feeding into a victim mentality and using this piece of my story to create a victim and so as long as we are in victim mode, we're not going to succeed. We need to let that go.
BEATE CHELETTE:Yes, I had this deep spiritual journey. And there was this point in this journey where I realized that my abuse was true, right? It was, it was worse than I remembered. And I was in shock that I had remembered so much more than there was. And then there comes the point, and the facilitator says, Well, what do you what meaning do you give this? And I almost got mad. I was like, What do you mean? What meaning do I give that? I mean, this is a fact. It's a reality. This is what happened. It was 10 times worse. And is that? What meaning do you give this? And then it dawned on me that, if we are taking that story of abuse, drama of the absent parent of the neglectful parent of the abusive parent, or whatever that might be. And I think everybody has a story like that, some way worse than others, right? We take that and we say, I am everything because of that, then you perpetuating the pain in in for the rest of your life. And I have this example after I went, came back from the journey I saw my mother, my abuser, which was, which was very interesting, because I'm sitting in the plane and I'm Scarlet, I'm, this is what's going through my mind. I'm going like, well, so I forgave her for whatever what I remembered back then, but now I remember more. Is that technically a new batch, or is that grandfathered into the old batch of forgiveness. I mean, there's this type of stuff you go through. And then I, for the first time, really saw my mother for what she was. And it's a traumatized 12 year old stuck in World War Two. Yeah, and she's 90, and I'm thinking to myself, this is, this is her reality for 78 years, she's surviving one more day for 78 years, this is how stuck she is in the store. She can enjoy anything outside of it, her entire thinking, her entire behavior, the way she takes care of herself, what she does, everything is geared towards surviving one more day, not enjoyment, not joy, not experiences, not connecting with other people. It's about surviving one more day. Now let's get back to what we're talking about. When people get stuck in their store, their mindset story. How does this show up? How do you know they're stuck in a mindset story?
Scarlette Joyce Rojas:You hear? Well, for me, when I speak to people, I listen to what they say and how they tell their story, right? So I'll ask them, you know, tell me what's going on, tell me, tell me your story, right? And so then I listen for how they put that on the table, right? So are they in this thought process that, oh, I cannot change because this happened to me, or because this happen to me? I am here. Okay, so you are here. So now, what can we do to move you forward? And then the person begins kind of saying, okay, these are all the excuses. This is why I cannot move forward, right? Let's let that go. Are you ready to move forward? And that's where you can begin noticing, are you still in that victim mindset, and do you want to move forward, or do you just want to hold on to that, to that part of you? Right? And we see that also in the Bible, right in in the story where Jesus asks the man that's crippled, and he says, Do you want to get up? Because the man starts giving him all of these excuses as to why he cannot, and then he says, Get up, right? So that's that's how you can kind of, you could tell when you speak to somebody and with yourself too, also ask yourself, look around you, is this where I want to be? Is this what I want from my life? And if the answer to that is no, then what do you want from your life? And why have you not gotten there? Ask yourself and the moment, the moment that you begin, you know you try to answer that, listen to your answers, like from a neutral perspective. Or do do that with a friend. Do that with a business coach, right? So. Do that with somebody that can call you out on like, okay, these are the reasons, right?
BEATE CHELETTE:I love that. I love that so much. The question is so simple. It's like, do you like being where you are? And if that's a yes, by all means, don't change anything. But if the end the question is, do you like where you are at? And my answer is no. Now I have a very distinct different pattern ahead of me, because that means I must change something in order to get a different, different result. Scarlet, we now went through some of the storytelling and the arriving at the critical intersection, and the critical intersection is now I have awareness that the story that I tell myself of why I am where I am is the exact reason why I am where I am, because I believe that that story is true. Now I'm not making enough money. My business is not making enough money. How do I get out of that? How do you help me to figure out what I need to do now to break this old behavior pattern? Because if I knew how to do it, I would have done it
Scarlette Joyce Rojas:already. Yeah. So then people get stuck in logical loops, right? So they're doing the things that they're supposed to be doing logically, but they don't realize that something is holding them back, and it's subconscious. So we can begin looking at what part what are those three things? Is it what you think about yourself or what you believe about yourself, what you believe about the world, or what you believe about money? And one quick way of doing that is to begin to notice the things that you say to yourself, you know, when you get angry, what thoughts come into your head? When you are frustrated, what thoughts come into your head when you look in the mirror, what thoughts do you do you say? What do you say to yourself during the day? We tend to not notice these things because they're actually already built into our brain right their neural pathways that we use every single day and we've been using for decades. So in order to change that thought pattern, then we need to begin to say different things to ourselves. But first we have to catch what it is that we are thinking and believing about ourselves, money in the world.
BEATE CHELETTE:I think that's really, really good. Let's go maybe through an example, and say, What's this really look like? So let's say I'm a business owner, and I've been working really hard on this, but I'm not making significant amounts of money. I pay my bills. I'm okay, but it's this is really not what I set out to be in business for myself. I wanted a lot more. So now I am. It's the end of the year. You know, everybody else is talking about their distributions and their rough IRAs and putting money away takes free, and I don't have any money to put away because I didn't, I didn't make enough money. So I might be thinking something along the lines, or I'm a loser, or I just suck at being a business owner, or this is really terrible. I'm embarrassed. I don't really want to talk about money. I want to hide. You know, I set out to do all these great things, and look at me. Here's the reality of what I really am at. What do I do now that I'm in this, in this pattern, or I might be thinking the election, the recession, the economy, the pharmaceutical company, the conspiracy, the whatever. It's my parents fault because they have problems with money. So I'm having problems money. So I have all these, all these excuses. How do I? How do I, how do I get out of it?
Scarlette Joyce Rojas:Okay, so number one, right, is understanding that piece of it, and you, you name the two things, it's what you feel about yourself. Was your first example, right? I'm a loser. I've never been very good with businesses, you know? And then you begin thinking, my mom had a business, or my dad had a business, and that failed. Okay, so that's what you believe about yourself. That is the core belief that we need to now check to see what what you believe about yourself, why, and then root it out. Okay, we'll get to that in a little bit. The other piece was the what you believe about the world, the election and the world basically doomed, right? So who wants to even do anything and everything's working against me. So okay, that's your belief about the world, and we need to find out what happened in your past that got you there. Okay? So we can do that. You can kind of do that on your own, right by asking yourself certain questions. One of them is, what is your first memory of money? What's your first memory? You also ask yourself and ask yourself, what were the feelings around it? Were there feelings of anxiety? Was it fear? Was it Oh,
BEATE CHELETTE:my God, I have a great example. Yeah, my first recognition of money is that I never had any, and I was never allowed to have any money for myself, so I, I think I stole like, 50 cent out of my mother's wallet for her, and I got caught, and my mother was all about punishing me, and my dad says, Oh, I guess it's time to give them an allowance. I can see on how two such conflicting messages, yeah, over the same occurrence probably caused some money anxiety and right that, especially when I was a single mom that I had that I I felt I should and I could, but somehow it was, it was bad, and there was a lot of shame around it. It literally never even thought about this until you just said that. What's the first memory of money? I'm like, Oh, my God, it was me getting caught stealing. Yeah,
Scarlette Joyce Rojas:yeah. So then, so then let's dig into that, right? What were the feelings that came came to you at that moment, try to remember, what were you mostly
BEATE CHELETTE:shame, just Shame, shame that I I did that, and that I wanted something, you know, and then the whole religious belief that came in, that I I wanted something, even though I wasn't supposed to want anything because I already had everything, because my hard working parents put a roof over my head and food On the table. So what else could I possibly want? So was this stripping me, especially for my mother. My father was not like that. My mother is like you know what I give you, you must be okay with, and you shall not have any other desires but that. And therefore, if you want anything else you are bad so that that, I think that's the mindset on how I grew up around money. Yeah,
Scarlette Joyce Rojas:I'm actually jotting it down as you, as you speak. It's guilt around wanting more. So then in the moment where you begin building more, like what I would probably see is okay when you begin building more, there's a possibility of you having that kind of like reservation, like, oh, wait a minute, maybe I don't want to get that big, because I'm not supposed to want more, right? And the wanting more then digs into what you believe about yourself. Are you not enough to have more? Do you not deserve more? Why did my mom not want me to have more or ask for more? Is it because the world can't give me more? Is it because I don't deserve more? So these are, you know, conflicting memories, and then they can come about later on in your future, where you're just like, okay, maybe you settle for a partner, because it's just like, Okay, I guess this is as good, as good as it gets. I shouldn't be asking for more, right?
BEATE CHELETTE:That's exactly what happened. Oh gosh, where were you like, 30 years ago? That's exactly that's exactly what happened? I just love this so much. Because you know now, when you ask me the right question, and I really want to point this out for the beehive, is when you ask the right questions, like, What's your earliest memory? And we can certainly explain and say, Well, yeah, she stole that's bad. She shouldn't have done that, but I know if I would have asked, I wouldn't have gotten anything. And I really whatever wanted the key, I think it was for candy after church or something. And then eventually we just didn't put the money in the in the basket in church, and then we got the candy, until that the thing was, was kind of figured out. So in a way, the the suppressing of the desire, of what I wanted, and I think that is, you know, in mindset, I see this so clearly now, because the desire to have more or to even have anything, right, it's been suppressed since I can think so. No wonder that everything I desire something I'm gonna have my inner resistance pop up, yes,
Scarlette Joyce Rojas:yes. And there's more to that. Like, if we keep delving into it, right, there could be more to it, because you're at church, right? So then you were basically being forced to put that money to God, right, and then and not have candy. Like a kid wants candy, a kad- a kid doesn't understand why they're giving their money to God, like I can't even see God, right? So why am I doing that instead of candy? And now you take that money and you go buy candy with it, and now the guilt is not only against shame that I stole the money from that my parents gave me, but now shame that I stole from God, right? So then that could even put, even, like create a bit of a gap between your relationship with with God and you right? So there's, there's a lot, it's, it's interesting stuff. This is fast, that's
BEATE CHELETTE:absolutely fascinating, absolutely correct. And then, and then, from there on, it, it just spirals, because then you, then you start to question on how. So a God that is supposedly all loving, then allows all these things to happen, right? And then you have a story around God and spirituality, and that creates a disconnect, and then you start to go into the control, and then you have the shame and the guilt, and now you're stuck in a perpetual infinity loop, which is, I'm just so fascinated how quickly you kind of got to the bottom of it. And I think it's great that we did that. You like give me a little coaching session here to demonstrate on how really easy it is to get to these, to these core principles, now that our audience kind of has an idea on how to get to these. So once we know these pieces and we come to you, how do you help us to step out of it and and reverse that, or rewrite that, or reframe, I mean, whatever you you want to call it, yeah, so there's different steps
Scarlette Joyce Rojas:involved, right? And it's really going to depend on on the client themselves. I love working one on one. I do group as well, but I love working one on one, because I can get this deep, right? So it's going to depend on where your journey is taking you and or where I where we need to take you in order to heal some of those pieces, right? And I want to go back to one of the things you said, because it stuck out to my mind. So you talked about your mom, and you talked about how you saw her, and then she was this 12 year old that still was kind of living in that old right, that old piece. So, yeah, what happens? And let's look at it like psychologically first, what happens is because something happened that's emotional for you. Let's take that example. You were shamed because you didn't put that money into the basket. And so now that's an emotional scenario, and it creates a belief, okay? Your child mind created this belief, not you. Now, okay? So your child mind created this belief around shame, and you hold on to that. Okay? Now fast forward. Decades later, you're still hanging on to that, and shame is still making decisions for you. Our subconscious mind bookmarked that emotional moment, created a belief around it, which we will carry. Then moving forward, okay, your mom, your mom, in her child mind, must have made some type of decision in some traumatic experience, and trauma ranges right for different people. So in a traumatic experience, she must have made some type of decision that now makes her act the way she does. So now we have you, right, and you were, how old were you when that happened with the basket?
BEATE CHELETTE:Maybe, maybe 10. And yeah,
Scarlette Joyce Rojas:so we have 10 year old you, and we have 12 year old her, and we think that we're dealing with like a grown up, like mom, okay? No, because you're not dealing with a 90 year old mom or 70 year old mom, you're dealing with a 12 year old, right? And then whoever comes across you is dealing with a 10 year old, right? But also another piece to it is the forgiveness. That's the hardest piece, and I recently had to kind of look at certain things in my life and realized that the weight of someone's sin against us, plus the weight of my sorrow around it, is just too heavy of a burden. So that's why forgiveness is such a big part of spirituality, such a big part of the Bible, and it's such a big part of psychology, too, right? In both those worlds, forgiveness is a big piece so coming to this idea of, all right, well, understanding what happened in the past, and then taking the step to now understand what needs to be forgiven and who needs to be forgiven, and one of them might be you. You know yourself. Yeah,
BEATE CHELETTE:is this really fascinating? As you're talking about this, I'm checking what my response to it is, and I think this is really my mother's story. Is that because she had to be an adult to a mother that was completely incapable of taking care of anything, and so she had to become an adult when she was 12 years old and her father died, and make money and do all these hardcore decisions. And I think that in a way, she's punished everybody around her ever since, because she had to go through that, and it was so difficult for her that, and she could not stand up against her mother until her mother died in 93 but she could certainly stand up against her own children for wanting something that she didn't get and that she felt that because she didn't have. We didn't deserve that either. And I'm sure this wasn't conscious. I'm sure this was all what was all subconscious. So. One thing I want to want to just talk about before we start to wrap this up. I think that's really also important to understand the forgiveness part. So forgiveness, when I went through my spiritual journey, what I really enjoyed is that they said you forgive when you're ready. But that's not what we worried about first. What we worried about is your healing and your your inner child work, and to make sure that you now go back to that, that child that obviously was the, I mean, I was the only kid that didn't get any money to buy anything. My mother would buy my clothes. We had to eat the cookies that she bought because we couldn't go and get my our own. I mean, it was, like, so freaking controlling. And I just, I guess I just rebelled against that. But is it imperative to forgive, or is forgiveness the end result of when you do the work? Sometimes I think people go like, well, I need to forgive them, and I don't want to, or I'm not ready to forgive them. Isn't it that we need to do the work first and then forgive ourselves and come to terms ourselves before we can forgive all this other stuff. Where are you with that
Scarlette Joyce Rojas:good question? I think it's something that kind of happens. I think it could happen in tandem. I don't think there's a strategy necessarily around forgiveness. I think understanding what was done is the first step, and being in it unfortunately, just going through the emotions. Because some people try to forgive, but it's almost like a forgiving by sweeping it under the rug. You know, the dust is still under the rug, right? The scraps and garbage is still there. Versus understanding, this is what was done to me, okay? And you could put that in quotation mark, this was what was done to me. This is what I felt around it. This is what I would have wanted for you to do, right and but at the same time, once you go through that, this is what you did, this is what it made me feel. This is what I would have wanted. But now I understand if I see it from your point of view that, okay, dot, dot, dot, right? And you see that from the other person's perspective as much as you can see it, right, that is the beginning of a healing so imagine this, right? She has her own wound from when she was a child, and then the people that she meets, whether maybe it's your dad or may have infected that wound even more with maybe certain things that they did that hurt her, right? And that wound becomes more and more and more infected. And so all of us are kind of walking around with infected wounds, and all we're doing is covering it with band aids, instead of opening the band aid up and then healing truly what's inside there and forgiveness is, is one the one of the biggest pieces that heals what is in that wound. So,
BEATE CHELETTE:yeah, I like this. I like this a lot. I think you've given us a lot to think about today, examining mindset, mindset around money, and the earliest, I think that's a great exercise, the earliest memory around money. What is that? And then the evaluation of, how could this affect, or what is the probability that it's having an effect on how you're handling money money right now. And I think the guilt and the shame is definitely something that I carry, and I'm even ashamed for that, because I made millions in an exit, and I still have guilt and shame around wanting more. And I didn't really knew how to articulate this until we just spoke. So, so very, very powerful work that you do Scarlette for somebody who's now heard this and goes well, if she can do that with b, then what can you do with me? Where do we send them? You can go
Scarlette Joyce Rojas:to my website, moneymindsetadvisors.com so you can find me also. I'm on LinkedIn. I'm on Instagram."money mindsetmami" is on Instagram. So you can just reach out, DM me and either myself or one of my team members. We'll get back to you. What happened.
BEATE CHELETTE:Yeah, I love that very much. All right. Well, thank you so much for being on the show today. It's been an absolute pleasure to connect with you. Thank you. And there you have it. So if there is a recurring story that's holding you back and you're not addressing that, then that story will just percolate and percolate until you're ready to resolve it. So go ahead check out Scarlette and take some of the advice and check out some of the resources she has on her website, and until we see each other again next week and goodbye. So appreciate you being here. Thank you so much for listening to the entire episode. Please subscribe to the podcast, give us a five star, review, a comment and share this episode with one more person so that you can help us help more people. Thank you again, until next time. Goodbye.